I am very sorry that I was not able to communicate the past few days, my computer was attacked with it seems the enemy, but we are back on line. I would like to continue with the child from 5 to 11 and see if we can shed just a little light, to make your job as a parent is easier. You'll note they have needs on more of an intellectual nature as they are growing in understanding. They are developing socially and in organized play at School, the Church, and in the home. Organized play is making them what to belong to a group, club or even a gang. It becomes necessary for parents to become involved in every area of there activities as much as possible, with out dictating to them. They have tasks to achieve as they enter grade school and middle school, and are in need of making wise choices. Many times parents can help in selecting teachers, as they become apart of parent and teacher activities for their children. As parents, it's imperative we know as much as possible without becoming FBI agents. We do not have to fear relinquishing our responsibility and giving them empowerment for their behavior and attitudes. There is going to be neighborhood stress, home stress, and stress at school, parents need to guard against laying too much on there children. They are stressed out already, as they are exposed to racial and religious prejudices. You may see symptoms of adaptive behavior breakdowns, by them wanting to bow to peer pressure and compulsions to react with anger, or bitterness. These types of reactions are going to have to be dealt with in a positive way as soon as possible, to prevent juvenile delinquency. They will have some visual disappointments like, not being able to hear, see, or even feel like they want. Many times muscle spasms, nail biting, compulsory, or absent masturbation, will become a concern to child and the parents need to be very understanding. I hope you’re understanding just a little more what your child is going through, so your role modeling becomes effective. They are now learning more at School than at home, on how to cope with all of life’s problems. The Schools need to be teaching morality and ethics that will benefit and bless our children during these early childhood years. Parent don’t lose heart, continue to know you have a voice and when things are not decently and in order speak up. Our Children are looking for discipline and we need to make sure wrong behavior has consequences, or our Children are going to dictate to us as parents and punish us. The Home is still God’s plan for families to address what is proper and good for all mankind. One can’t live a double standard, we are either for God’s order, or mans disorder in the home. What is your choice, Gods way or your way? This is the oldest question known to mankind and we need to be like Joshua in the Old Testament as he said, as for me and my house we will serve the Lord. Trust you are praying for the Lord to give you wisdom, understanding and the knowledge needed in today’s world, to do what is right by your children at all times. Remember who you are needs to be understood, for we are not able to do our thing, but do what the Lord wills for us every moment of the day. |